I Live You For Ever: Dementia in a Loving Marriage, by Meredith Rutter Marple

I Live You For Ever is a candid and penetrating memoir chronicling Meredith Rutter Marple’s nine-year journey caring for her husband, Gary, as mixed dementia reshaped the fabric of their marriage. What began as small slips—forgotten directions, mental-math errors—unfolded into a relentless progression of symptoms associated with vascular dementia, Alzheimer’s disease, and Lewy body dementia.

Drawing from her personal journals, Meredith captures the intimacy of conversations and the daily negotiations of love, anger, denial, and acceptance between partners bound together by decades of shared life. With honesty and compassion, she illuminates the dual tragedy of spousal dementia: the gradual fading of the ill partner and the parallel unraveling—and resilience—of the caregiving partner.

At once heartbreaking and hopeful, this memoir is both a testament to enduring love and a call to face the “what-ifs” of aging with courage and candor.